What should one focus on "Working towards what one wants to do?", or "Avoiding what one does not want to do?".
Yes, i know a possible first reply to this question. "Is it really about choice? We learn from our hardships and hence we must embrace whatever comes to us, without getting too choosy. And anyways, what would you do after you achieve your dream? Would you stop striving or would you work towards a higher dream? Where does this end? "
I agree but I don't agree.
There are certain dreams one has, and working towards them is life giving. You may stumble in between, get up and stumble again. You may realize mid-way that the dream itself has changed. You may feel hurt whenever you encounter setbacks. You might not have even crystallized the dream - it may have an amorphous shape as of today.
But action is better than inaction.
Which brings me back to my original question "Action on what?". Focusing on what you don't want to do, gives it more energy. If you say that I don't want to pursue this work today - you have given it energy. It is going to stay in your mind for the day. So where would you get the time to think about things you want to do?...
Okay! We should focus on what we want to do. But isn't that easier said than done. "Do we really know our dream - what we want to do with our lives? Even if we were to know it, would we get the satisfaction we hope for when we finally achieve it? ".
I don't know! The striving for a perfect dream "which has been well thought out" is something which i have personally gone through. But then i realized that this leads to inaction and the years go by.
What works for me is to have tentative dreams which i work towards - those that energize me to action. Do i have complete clarity when i move - no!
You may ask that through this won't we land up somewhere we don't want to be?
Possible, but anyways are we always in control? Do we know whether staying in the present would ensure that we stay somewhere acceptable to us?
I had heard a statement a few years back "Kites fly against and not with the wind".
"I want to fly towards where i want to go - it doesn't matter whether it's with or against the wind."
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Sourav